I've got to say, over the years I've evolved from being a giving person to one who is now very careful about who I will put myself out or cause myself stress for.
This is a personal thing with me, I spend most of my time at home because I work from home. I don't like to go out for a trip to Wal-Mart or to do this or that. In fact any time I leave the house is a major upheaval for me. I don't expect everyone to understand that but I do find myself resenting when people ask me to change my habits to accommodate something they need.
At times I feel very selfish for this, but then I look at some of my friends. I have one friend who is a giver in every sense of the word. No matter what she has planned or what is going on in her own life she will do everything she can to be at every friends kids' birthday party, run errands and help others out every spare moment she has. From her friends to her family to her parents and everyone in between she gives and gives and gives. She has a good heart and a kind thought for everyone and is a wonderful person.
But when does she have time for herself? When can she just let it all go and relax? When I see how stressed and frazzled she can get I feel much better about my selfish attitude and feel as if I'm managing my life and am in control of how I feel and what happens to an extent.
So, in the interest of discussion are you a giver or a taker or do you try to stay on the sidelines? I know that every woman is different and has different reasons for why they are the type of person they are. Share your thoughts in the comments!
My name is Suz and I'm just an everyday woman who is trying to figure out when exactly I turned old. I'm not a doctor or an expert- what I am is a woman who wants to know for myself and to share what I learn with other women.