It doesn’t matter if you are a new widow or if it has been several years, when Valentine’s Day rolls around you are going to get the blues. You’ll be reminded of past Valentine’s Day, when you got flowers and went out to nice dinners with your spouse, or even just spending the night alone at home. It’s definitely one of those holidays you will dread.
You may even feel a little resentful of those who are talking about all of their great plans. That’s okay; you are entitled to those feelings. This was a special day for being with your loved one and suddenly (or even not so suddenly) being alone on that day after many years is hard. Every widow around will agree that it is depressing and brings back all of the hurt of being alone.
I have been a widow for nearly six years now and am still alone. It’s easier to deal with, but I do understand the pain and depression of those first couple of years. But just remember, that the key thing about Valentine’s Day is it’s all about showing love and caring for another person.
Sure, it’s designed for lovers and romance, but who’s to say that widows and single people can’t show their love in other ways? There are a lot of lonely people out there. Perhaps reaching out to one of them will help your own case of the Valentine’s Day blues.
Widows that have lost a loved one more recently than you can benefit from you. After all, who knows more about spending those first few Valentine’s as a widow, than another widow? Show a younger widow some love and caring this Valentine’s Day. It will ease your loneliness and blues and will make her feel better too.
I personally will probably be spending Valentine’s Day with some very sweet grandchildren. What better way to feel loved than having a grandchild hug you or hugging them back? Maybe we will bake cookies, or color or just watch movies. I’ll be with someone I love and who loves me. That’s what it is all about, right?
I also write about the single life and being a widow at a site called Daily Two Cents. I recently wrote an article that has lots of great ways for you to spend Valentine’s Day. Single on Valentine’s Day? Make the Most of It may give you just the right idea to have a wonderful day.
Thank you all for reading my Widow’s Walk here on Everyday Woman. I plan to publish at least one post a month here, and hope to see you come back. While you are here, look around at the other great articles.
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My name is Donna and I am just and Everyday Woman trying to figure out this aging thing, I also get to figure out how to do the Widow's Walk through life. I lost my husband to cancer nearly four years ago, after being with him since I was 15-years old. He was always a big fan of my writing ability and I thought, "What better way to honor him, than to keep on writing and maybe be able to help someone else who is going down this same path.