It’s a shame that you have to be warned about such a thing, but believe me you will need to be prepared to hear many rumors and gossip about what you are doing (or not doing). Some people have nothing better to do, especially in a small town.
Here you are, trying to deal with the grief and loss of your spouse and the next thing you know people will have you either withering away in your home or out playing the “Merry Widow.” I seriously hadn’t left my house in months after losing my husband, but believe it or not, I heard through the grapevine that I was getting remarried!
Yes, people are going to talk and it will unfortunately find its way back to you. You’ll have to learn not to let it bother you, as hard as that sounds, because it seriously doesn’t matter what you do, someone will gossip about it. If you choose to stay by yourself and live a quiet life, you’ll hear, “Oh the poor thing is just withering away.” If you do start going out and maybe even dating, you’ll hear gasps of, “She is dating already?”
YOU know what you are doing and whether it is right for you are not. If you choose to stay single and spend most of your time at home, that’s fine. I stay home most all of the time, but I have plenty of gardening and hobbies that I enjoy. I am certainly not “withering away.” The same goes for if you decide you are ready to go out with friends and possibly even date.
It’s hard to hear rumors and gossip about what you are, or are not, doing but chances are someone is going to offer up their opinion. Remember, it is just an opinion. Your true friends will remain your true friends and support you in however you decide to go forward. Don’t let a few gossipy people add to what you are already going through. Be prepared for it to happen, but also be prepared to brush it off.
My name is Donna and I am just and Everyday Woman trying to figure out this aging thing, I also get to figure out how to do the Widow's Walk through life. I lost my husband to cancer nearly four years ago, after being with him since I was 15-years old. He was always a big fan of my writing ability and I thought, "What better way to honor him, than to keep on writing and maybe be able to help someone else who is going down this same path.